M and I are celebrating three years together today. I can't believe it's been three years. Some moments it feels like there was never a life before him and others it feels like just yesterday we embarked on this journey together without ever looking back.
Three years ago I was stuck in limbo and needing to get out. I'd been stuck for too long. After a few nights spent out with friends at local dive bars in early 2007, by May 1st there was no denying it, I had a giddy, school girl crush on M. I remember the day I admitted it and feeling a rush of emotions. My dear friend Brenda nodded saying she already knew and how did it feel to finally be happy? So naturally when M planned a get together with our friends for another night out on the town hitting up our favorite bars, I jumped at the opportunity. We made plans to go out on May 3, 2007 around 8P. So when he called at 6P and told me that everyone had cancelled and it was only going to be him and I, my anxiety rose, my breath grew shallow and I knew where it was headed. It was going to be him and I; and even though he didn't call it a date, it was. He threw me a sly, "Well I haven't been to the movies in awhile, why don't we go see a movie?" and thus our journey together started.
He picked me up around 8 and I remember jumping in his truck and taking a deep breath in of his cologne and swooning; I knew I was in trouble. We went out for some drinks at Dave & Buster's, talked about where we were in our lives and headed off to a movie. After that we headed to one of our favorite bars to talk and cap off the bar. And as a true gentleman would, he didn't even try and kiss me goodnight. He just gave me a hug and told me he'd talk to me later.
And indeed he did. First thing the next morning he texted me to make sure I was feeling ok from the night before and to just tell me that he hoped I had a good day. I was melting...fast. And soon after he called to ask if I was interested in going out with a good friend of his that night. I must have made an impression on him as this was a clear setup for the best friend test.
We spent the night at another relaxing night at the bar (If you haven't noticed, we clearly enjoy alcohol) and ended the night with hugs and a whispered, "I work in the morning tomorrow but I'll call you when I get done. Let's go see a movie."
And that he did. He called and I answered. He wanted to see Spider-Man 3 which had just been released and I refused without seeing #1 and #2 first. So we went for a drive, picked up some food, settled in for a cozy evening at his house watching Spider-Man 1 & 2 and even throwing in Cars as well. It was the perfect evening. And as he started to fall asleep, I gently shook him awake and had him drive me home. Still with no kiss but what looked like a promising future.
He called again the next day and we set out for a dinner out at a small hole in the wall called Violet's and a night at the theaters watching Spider-Man 3. It was perfect. And by the time the night ended, we had introduced our dogs, were hand-in-hand, and sharing our first kiss, to which I replied "Finally!" when he laid his lips on mine. I could hardly wait.
We came from broken pasts; relationships that shaped us but hurt us even more so each day we reminded each other that we'd just take one day at a time and see what happened. I told him I didn't want to be 'just another girl' and he reassured me he didn't want me to be either. I told him I wanted to move back home to California to be close to my family and didn't know where I was headed in the future and he said he wanted to stay in Hawaii forever. But we continued. Faith and trust in one another and taking one baby step at a time.
And within weeks we were completely smitten. I was fully in love and so was he and we weren't so afraid of what was coming up in the future. And within two months, we were engaged and six months later, married.
Our life is amazing and I wouldn't change it in any way. We've had a lot of ups and a few downs but overall we love, trust and completely respect one another which brings an amazing level of security in our relationship. He work together as partners and make this life work for us because we know that life is better with each other in it. He's my best friend, my lover, my husband, my daughter's father, my everything. He is amazing and every day never ceases to amaze me how lucky I am. I truly have been blessed.
Happy 3 years darling!
awww!!!!!
ReplyDelete